Love is a biological necessity, a force operating to one degree or another in all biological
life. Without love there is no physical commitment to life, no psychic hold. Love exists whether or not it is sexually expressed,
though it is natural for love to seek expression. Love implies loyalty. It implies commitment.
To love someone, you must appreciate how that person differs from yourself and from
others. You must hold that person in mind so that to some extent love is a kind of meditation - a loving focus upon another
individual. Once you experience that kind of love you can translate it into other terms. The love spreads out, expands, so
that you can then see others in love's light.
Love is naturally creative and explorative - that is, you want to creatively explore
the aspects of the beloved one. Even characteristics that would otherwise appear as faults attain a certain loving significance.
They are accepted - seen, and yet they make no difference. Because they are still attributes of the beloved one, even the
seeming faults are redeemed. The beloved attains prominence over all others.
So, we start by loving ourselves and understanding that we are valid beings, not to be humiliated
or put down. Then we can expand that idea to include others, offering them the same understanding that we allow ourselves.
We can rejoice in the unique nature of each individual, and value their differences without judgement. We may start with one
special, chosen 'loved one', and develop a deep, long lasting relationship where all aspects of love are experienced. But
love is not restricted, it has no boundaries and cannot be confined by our limited concepts of institutionalised relationships.
This applies to lesbian and homosexual relationships as well as to heterosexual ones. In your society, however, identity
is so related to sexual stereotypes that few people know themselves well enough to understand the nature of love, and to make
any such commitments, A transitory period is currently taking place, in which women seem to seek the promiscuous sexual freedom
more generally granted to men. It is believed that males are naturally promiscuous, aroused by sexual stimuli almost completely
divorced from any complementary deeper response. The male, then, is thought to want sex whether or not he has any love response
to the woman in question, or sometimes to desire her precisely because he does not love her. In such cases, sex becomes not
an expression of love, but an expression of derision or scorn. So women, accepting these ideas often, seek for a situation
in which they too can feel free to express their sexual desires openly, whether or not any love is involved.
Yet loyalty is love's partner, and the primates display such evidence in varying degrees. The male
in particular has been taught to separate love and sex, so that a schizophrenic condition results that tears apart his psyche
-in operational terms- as he lives his life. The expression of sexuality is considered male, while the expression of love
is not considered manly.
To some extent or another, then, the male feels forced to divide the expression of his love from the expression of his
sexuality. It would be disastrous for women to follow the same course. This great division has led to your major wars. This
does not mean that men were alone responsible for wars. It does mean that the male so divorced himself from the common fountain
of love and sex that the repressed energy came forth in those aggressive acts of cultural rape and death, instead of birth.
When you look at the animal kingdom, you suppose that the male chooses blindly, led by dumb instinct, so that in overall terms
one female will do as well as any other. When you discover that a certain chemical or scent will attract a certain male insect,
for example, you take it for granted that, that element is alone responsible for drawing the male to the female. You take
it for granted, in other words, that individual differences do not apply in such cases so remote from your own reality. You
simply are not able to understand the nature of such consciousnesses, and so you interpret their behavior according to your
beliefs. This would be sad enough if you did not often use such distorted data to further define the nature of male and female
behavior. In so distorting your ideas of sex, you further limit the great capacities of human loyalty, which is always connected
with love and love's expression. Lesbian and homosexual relationships then are at best tenuous, overwrought with confused
emotions, very seldom able to maintain a stability that allows for individual growth.
Heterosexual relationships also break down, for the identity of each partner becomes based upon
sexual roles that may or may not apply to the individuals involved. Since you feel that sex is the only proper method of love's
expression, and yet also believe that sex and love are divided, you are in a quandary. These sexual beliefs are also far more
important in national relationships than you realize, for you attempt to take what you think of as a masculine stance as a
nation. So, for example, does Russia, India takes a feminine stance in terms of your beliefs, now. A male with growths of
any kind kidney stones or ulcers, for example has tendencies he considers feminine, and therefore dependent, of which he is
ashamed. In a mock biological ceremony, he gives birth to the extent that he produces within his body material that was not
there before. In ulcers the stomach becomes the womb, bloodied, giving birth to sores his interpretation of a male's grotesque
attempt to express feminine characteristics.
Creativity rides the tides of love. When love is denied its natural expression, creativity
Love is always a protection, in a quite literal manner; in a biological and electromagnetic and chemical and psychic manner.
Love is a biological as well as a spiritual characteristic. Basically, love and creativity are synonymous. Love exists
without an object. It is the impetus by which all being becomes manifest. Desire, love, intent, belief and purpose - these
form the experience of your body and all the events it perceives.
There is a short-circuiting process in which even good intentions are distorted and turned to other purposes. That which
is feared is feared so strongly and concentrated upon so intensely that it is attracted rather than repelled. The approach
should not be fear of war but love of peace; not fear of poor health but concentration upon the enjoyment of good health;
not fear of poverty, but concentration upon the unlimited supplies available on your earth. Desire attracts but fear also
attracts. Severe fear is highly dangerous in this respect and in this context.
The very deep love that you have for each other, my dear friends, is in the overall a bisexual love, for you have known
each other many times, and in different sex roles.
Love and hate are both based upon self-identification in your experience. You do not bother to love or hate persons you
cannot identify with at all. They leave you relatively untouched. They do not elicit deep emotion.
In the same way, it is possible to love your fellow human beings on a grand scale, while at times hating them precisely
because they so often seem to fall short of that love.
To some extent you want to identify with those you feel deeply about. You do not love someone simply because you associate
portions of yourself with another. You often do love another individual because such a person evokes within you glimpses of
your own idealized self. The loved one draws your best from you. In his or her eyes you see what you can be. In the other’s
love you sense your potential.
This direct kind of knowledge is available, again, on any subject, to anyone who provides a suitable pattern through desire,
love, intent or belief.
It means that all options except sexual freedom have been denied. The great force of love and devotion is withdrawn from
personal areas of individual creativity through purposeful work. It is being withdrawn from expression through government
or law. It is being denied expression through meaningful personal relationships, and forced into a narrow expression through
a sexuality that then will indeed become meaningless.
It is easy to claim an equal love for all members of the species, but love itself requires an understanding that at your
level of activity is based upon intimate experience. You cannot love someone you do not know - not unless you water down the
definition of love so much that it becomes meaningless.
The emotion of love brings you closest to an understanding of the nature of All-That-Is. Love incites dedication, commitment.
It specifies. You cannot, therefore, honesty insist that you love humanity and all people equally if you do not love one other
person. If you do not love yourself, it is quite difficult to love another.
Love indeed does have its own language - a basic nonverbal one with deep biological connotations. It is the initial basic
language from which all others spring for all languages’ purposes rise from those qualities natural to love’s
expression - the desire to communicate, create, explore, and to join with the beloved. Speaking historically in your terms,
man first identified with nature, and loved it, for he saw it as an extension of himself even while he felt himself a part
of its expression. In exploring it he explored himself also. He did not identify as himself alone, but because of his love,
he identified also with all those portions of nature with which he came into contact.
It is not so much that he personified the elements of nature as that he threw his personality into its elements and rode
them, so to speak. As mentioned, love incites the desire to know, explore, and communicate with the beloved; so language began
as man tried to express his love for the natural world.
Television interacts with your lives, but it does not cause your lives. It does not cause the events that it depicts. With
your great belief in technology, it often seems to many people that television causes violence, for example, or that it causes
a love of overmaterialism, or that it causes unloose morals. Television reflects. In a manner of speaking it does not even
distort, though it may reflect distortions. The igniters and actors of television dramas are attuned to the mass mind. They
are not leaders or followers. They are creative reflectors, acutely aware of the overall, generalized emotional and psychic
patterns of the age.
Physically speaking, man’s purpose is to help enrich the quality of existence in all of its dimensions. Spiritually
speaking, his purpose is to understand the qualities of love and creativity, to intellectually and psychically understand
the sources of his being, and to lovingly create other dimensions of reality of which he is presently unaware.
Your emotional life at certain levels is enriched by the unconscious realization that those who love you from past or future
are connected to you by special ties that add to your emotional heritage and support. As many have supposed, particularly
in fiction, love relationships do indeed survive time, and they put you in a special correspondence. Even if you were aware
of reincarnational existences, your present psychological behavior would not be threatened but retain its prominence -- for
only within certain space and time intersections can physical actions occur. The more or less general acceptance of the theory
of reincarnation, however, would automatically alter your social systems, add to the richness of experience, and in particular
insert a fresh feeling for the future, so that you did not feel your lives dead-ended.